When talking with people about the congregational gathering or a home group or the assembly in general, I don’t use the word “service.” I believe that word¹ conceals important things while revealing inappropriate emphases. So, I’ve used three forms of this word in my title advisedly.
Today, for perhaps the third time in a Restoration church, I witnessed women in a relatively traditional assembly participating in a kind of serving that is not normal, or even permitted, in 99% of sister churches. While I find this activity to be a non-issue, I wonder about the development of thinking and practice in the observed location and others.
Two or three decades ago, I’d already come to the conclusion that the passing of communion trays by women is a non-issue, no matter what one thinks about women in leadership roles. It’s a matter of serving, and women serve in all sorts of other ways, such as potlucks and children’s classroom supplies. Women make the traditional church go ‘round. Why would we think serving communion trays to men and women is any different from serving in the kitchen at a “fellowship meal”?
The answer, of course, is that we have made communion official with liturgified practice and structured thinking. For a person to get up and serve has become, over the years, a matter of official function rather than “mere” serving. We may say that men “serve” communion, but we really think of what they do as official “leadership.” And in churches that retain a traditional, “complementarian” view of male and female roles, women don’t stand up and do anything, really. In some churches, they don’t even make comments in Bible classes.
Now, when a woman passes communion trays in a congregational worship assembly, is the group thinking more in terms of serving, or that the women are performing an official task that’s been historically reserved for men?
If the former, I wonder about women’s libbers. Do they consider that this is actually a step backward for women? In other words, are women who pass communion trays now relegated even more to roles of service? (Of course, serving is a good thing, not a bad one, but if your mindset is that women have been squelched, it might not feel good to serve.)
If the latter, i.e., if we are thinking women are participating in an official, liturgical role, I would argue that the congregation that allows women to serve has not progressed in its overall thought and practice.
We need to be progressing out of officialness, not diving more deeply into it.
Serving is appropriate for anyone. Passing trays is far more of a serving role than an official role, unless we make it official. (Someone has said that the women’s issue is relate to how close women get to a microphone.) Let all serve. Let more people serve than lead! And whatever happens in the service assembly, let no one denigrate serving.
– B. Casey, 8/6/23
¹ It should not be thought of as a “service.” It is a gathering of believers. Serving occurs, but not everything is service, and it should not be thought of as serving God’s needs. Leadership occurs, but not everything that goes on is leadership. “Service” implies formal liturgy and ritual, a la the temple. The word might be more aptly applied to the proceedings of some funerals.