This guy and I were becoming friends. One day, we were working to prepare a meal at a retreat. I confided in him. I told him of my deep pain, my pathway, and my struggle for the last while. Impatiently, he said, “C’mon, Brian. It’s been a year and a half.”
He didn’t get it.
Fast forward a couple decades. Another guy and I have become friends. In a different phase of life, I told this one of new, deep pains and my struggles. We shared some of his struggles, too, over a period of more than a year and a half (so far). He has never said, “C’mon, Brian. It’s been a year and a half.”
Be like the second friend.